Dear Id,

I slept with a kinda close friend’s boyfriend and he told me he was
going to tell her - two years from now (like that’s going to make
anything better).

I was just reading href="http://www.mezine.net/story.php?id=135">something similar by
Desperate and what you said hit my heart so badly when you said that I
can’t even call her my friend anymore. But at the same time I’m not
all in her face smiling as if nothing happened between me and her
boyfriend and part of me wants to do it again and the only thing
stopping me is how bad this feeling is and my guilty-ass conscience
and him because he doesn’t want to do it again. This
wouldn’t be so bad for me if he would just keep his big mouth shut and
I do mean that literally!

–Betrayer of the Betrayed

Dear Betrayer of the Betrayed:

Guilt is not a pretty emotion. Guilt can wreck your life. Guilt is
often misplaced, and sometimes it’s not warranted.

In your case, guilt is a warning sign. The good news is that your
conscience is functioning well enough to send you these warning pangs when
you behave badly. The bad news is that you seem to be ignoring the
pangs, and your conscience will only stand being ignored for so long
before slithering away deep into the dark abscesses of your mind and it
will take years of expensive therapy to call it out from its hiding
place.

The best advice Id can give is to stop ignoring your conscience. The
part of you that wants to sleep with your friend’s boyfriend again is
not the part of you that you should be listening to. Listen to the
other part; the part of you that knows what you did was wrong. If you
listen hard enough to that part of you, it might tell you that you
need to apologize to your friend, no matter how hard that might be,
and try very hard in the future to avoid circumstances which will
destroy your friendships, create relationships based on mistrust, and
in general cause a lot of unnecessary unhappiness in your young life.

But that’s up to you. Id can only tell you which part of you speaks
the truth and which part of you lies to you. The onus is on you to do
the listening.

–Id

Do you intentially
screw up to see who will respond? Michael Nesmith
DID NOT Invent WITE-OUT. His Mother did.

He also never played with the beatles.I won’t insult your
intelligence by telling you what group he played for.

–LOUIE D.

Dear LOUIE D.:

Thank you for not insulting Id’s intelligence. I have a very fragile
ego as it is.

I kill me. Get it? Ego? Id?

Oh, I forgot. You don’t have a sense of humor.

–Id